singlehood

Dear J ,

People  said " friends will  tell ya what you wanna hear . But great friends will tell ya what you DON'T wanna hear . "   ~   And  I know you always count on me for a reality check ........ 

Yup  ，I find  you're  becoming a " bloody whinger " ( someone who complains a lot )  recently  ~  Really ， you're  becoming one of those bitter ， cynical and relationship obsessed single people and I 'm not the only one voicing this opinion .

Come on ，focus on the joys of single-hood  ~  The ability of being spontaneous and planning  your life without checking with anyone else .  You can get to know the real  self  ~ join a yoga class ， read a book ， and spend the whole afternoon at the park .  You can flirt with whoever  you want  AND  if  you don't like it ， you can do something about it ~  BUT  stop wasting  your life waiting for a marriage prospect ! ~ You may never have the opportunity for a suitable marriage in this life ， so stop waiting and start moving . Prepare yourself for life — even a single life — by education ，experience ， and planning . Don't wait for happiness to be thrust upon you . Seek it out in serving your community ， learning or anything that would make yourself happy ....  Make a life FOR YOURSELF . ..... Really  ，whether you end up single or not ， You will need a career  or at least a hobby you can enjoy ， regardless . If you happen to get married  ， then all the better .  If not ， then you just keep working on it on the side . Sure ， I know  ， for some women it is different  ~  marriage is a life  ~ redirecting experience  ， for good or ill .

No ， it is not a message from Dr Phil   .... but your good frd Currie