Dating Rep

Once heard someone said that ~ for the first few months of every relationship you're not dating the person ， you're actually dating his / her representative  ~  I do believe this is fundamentally true .
 
I think when we date ， we all wear masks  ~  I mean most of us would act differently around our families than we would around our frds ，boss ，co-workers and strangers ~ This is how we navigate in society and while our primary M.O. is usually constant we're adaptable and able to change when circumstances require it . So it goes without saying that when we're dating we do what we can to make the best impression on a potential partner. Some ppl are better @ this than others and it may take a lot longer to get to know those ppl than those who aren't so good @ it.
 
I was told over and over again by my frds and family that I'm too right out there with what I think.
 
True  ， I'm not good @ coy disguises and always believe that being up front with someone is the most important quality a person can have ， but you know ， when you hear it from more than one person you start to question urself and ur primary beliefs and worse yet you start to question the true motivation of others .  Am I dating him or his representative ? Is it real or is it Memorex ? Since I'm so transparent right from the beginning  ， I unconsciously believe that everyone else is as honest with me as I'm with them  ~  but unfortunately I was wrong !!!!  Alternatively  ， ppl who are less honest also believe that everyone else is like them and being honest would be truly suck !  In some ways I do find dating is very much like a really long job interview and I was never too good @ those either  ， telling more than was necessary of the truth and failing miserably as well .
 
I hate the idea that I have to alter my personality to be coy and mysterious when I’m not and eventually I will be found out  ~  I mean eventually when you live with someone  ， everything comes out doesn’t it ? And wouldn’t you like to know everything sooner rather than later ?
 
So ， How do you know if you are dating him / her or his / her representative ?
 
Well  ， pay attention .. Peek behind the mask . Watch how he acts around  his  frds and family . If  he's  not willing to let you into that world where you can observe him , don’t let him into ur pants ! That is the mistake I've seen some of my frds made  ~  they had  gotten too intimate too soon . Not all but many gals having sex equates to feeling really connected to someone and then the blinders go up becoz they want more and then it’s too late to nip it in the bud . So find out if you're dating him or his representative before you let the relationship get physical ~  It’s only good common sense , unless you juz wanna get laid and then it doesn’t really matter !!!