Let It Be

昨晚在朋友家看 dvd  ~   itus  ~ 一部瑞士電影 , 故事講述 " Vitus " 一個天才兒童 ,   父母希望他成為偉大的鋼琴家 ，但他卻和所有小男孩一樣 ，只想在天空飛翔 。為了逃離父母加諸在身上的沈重壓力及不再為他人的期望而活 ，在一個雨夜 ，他做了一個決定 , 終於 ，他擁有了自己該有的同齡玩伴與不被限制的快樂 ........

 

這電影讓我想起 Kahlil Gibran 寫的 The Prophet其中一節 :

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

的確 ， 孩子是獨立的生命個體 ，不是父母的財產 ，過度期望及限制孩子的發展是頗自私的一件事 ，孩子就如其他萬事萬物一樣 ，有其成長的步調 !  正如 " The Grows By Itself " 的作者 Osho 的話 : " 當春天來臨 ，草木就自己生長 "  ~   對 !  要放手讓生命自己順性發展 ，不要執念 ，執念會造成性格扭曲 ，讓生命去傾聽內心的真實聲音 ， 然後生長出自己的姿態 .....