Be Good To Yourself


" Be good to urself "  ~   like a broken record   ,  I repead it to myself almost 
every day for the past few months. 

Yup , after a few broken relationships  ,  I finally realized I need to take good 
care of myself .  I have to stop waiting for someone else to do it for me what 
I absolutely must be doing for myself  .  Being good to ME must be my 
mantra and my number one priority .
 
I gradually understand that if I endlessly waiting for the world to deliver me 
" the one " I deserve  ,  the circumstances I deserve  ,  the situations I deserve 
....  I'm juz letting the minutes , hrs , days and weeks go by where I could be 
attending to my own needs . I cherish the memory of someone holding my 
hand but have never actually learned to hold my own . Sooooo , when a 
relationship is broken  ,  everything is cold and bleak  ~  well ,  of course it 
is ,  coz I was left with someone who has consistently abandoned me  ~  
And that's me . 
 
No matter how long does it take and how hard it's gonna be  ,  I must learn 
to be there for myself and learn to care myself the way I want someone else 
to care for me . Really , no one has treated me as badly or left me as alone 
as I have . It’s time to come back to me . 
 
@ my age , I know I should stop daydreaming for someone to jump out of 
the shadows and whisk me off to my deservedly wonderful place / my 
fantasy life . I must learn to be there by my own n make that place inside 
myself.  I must spend a part of each and every day affirming myself  be 
good to myself  .  I believe it's in this  “ attention to me ”  time that I can 
truly learn who I am and find that I can give to myself in a way no one 
else can.
 
Anna Quindlen once said  ~  I read and walked for miles @ nite along the 
beach  ,  writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone 
wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life . It 
never crossed my mind that  that  person could be me   ~  How true!!  ~  
For I am my home and I'm the one who solely take charge of how I build 
that home ...