Bench-Marking
“Comparison is the thief of joy .” - Theodore Roosevelt
Yup ， I always think that there is no point in comparing urself with others as no one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you . Yet life seems to be a constant competition. We aspire to be smarter ， wealthier ， more outstanding and successful than everyone else . Instead of loving our neighbor ，we are often trying to out do him .
Society tells us there is a need to benchmark our lives with everyone else . We are expected to be more thriving than our parents ， every family with multiple children suffer through bouts of sibling rivalry ， and we all wanna surpass our frds and colleagues !
Society tells us there is a need to benchmark our lives with everyone else . We are expected to be more thriving than our parents ， every family with multiple children suffer through bouts of sibling rivalry ， and we all wanna surpass our frds and colleagues !
Does all of this bench-marking actually lead to a never ending cycle of looking for material things to make us happy ? Why do we always longing a bigger house ， a better car , a bigger rock ? We actually spend a lot of time and energy on this constant search and at times neglect and take for granted what we already have ~ a good family ， a loving partner and great frds . There will always be a time when others are smarter ， prettier ， stronger and richer . Should we stop bench-marking and just be happy with what we have and who we are ? Or instead of bench-marking up ，should we be bench-marking down ， so we actually feel better about ourselves and about what we have accomplished .
My cousin J and her husband are a typical couple that is constantly bench-marking up ~ never being happy with what they have ， always wanting a bigger house ， a better car or a better social status . They actually spend a lot of time and energy on this constant search and at times neglect and take for granted what they already have ~ good jobs ， great friends ， a loving partner and their adorable son .
In an ideal world there would be no bench-marking ~ everyone happy with what they have ， not what they are missing .
(Graphic : Chibird )
My cousin J and her husband are a typical couple that is constantly bench-marking up ~ never being happy with what they have ， always wanting a bigger house ， a better car or a better social status . They actually spend a lot of time and energy on this constant search and at times neglect and take for granted what they already have ~ good jobs ， great friends ， a loving partner and their adorable son .
In an ideal world there would be no bench-marking ~ everyone happy with what they have ， not what they are missing .
(Graphic : Chibird )