Burden
I
received a very touching message from a frd early this morning and it
sorts of reminds me of a newspaper headline I read in the newspaper a
while back . The headline read ， “ A tidal waves of sadness: Dementia is striking more Canadian . ”
In that long special report ， it mentioned a couple spent a lifetime together but now ravaged by Alzheimer’s Disease .
The husband can’t remember who his wife is and she is slowly losing her
memories as well . The report emphasized that a particularly difficult
aspect of dementia is the burden of care it imposes on loved ones.
Burden of care ? Would you ever consider taking care of loved ones to be a burden ? Personally ，I always consider taking care of loved ones is not only a responsibility but unconditional love as well ~ really , it's never a burden to me . I had solely taken care of my sick parents for 3 years . After knowing that I could only sleep for 2-3 hrs a day，my brothers started to worry about my health and offered to chip in for a psw ~ but I refused . I do admit that the challenge of taking care of my parents was real ，especially they suffered from cancer so badly that they're unable to get up and walk anymore， taking care of them did need sooooo much energy and patients ~ but it's never a burden.
With all the jokes and fun that are in the web world ，sometimes there's one that comes along that has an important message . The one that I received this morning I thot it's a good one to share ~
Burden of care ? Would you ever consider taking care of loved ones to be a burden ? Personally ，I always consider taking care of loved ones is not only a responsibility but unconditional love as well ~ really , it's never a burden to me . I had solely taken care of my sick parents for 3 years . After knowing that I could only sleep for 2-3 hrs a day，my brothers started to worry about my health and offered to chip in for a psw ~ but I refused . I do admit that the challenge of taking care of my parents was real ，especially they suffered from cancer so badly that they're unable to get up and walk anymore， taking care of them did need sooooo much energy and patients ~ but it's never a burden.
With all the jokes and fun that are in the web world ，sometimes there's one that comes along that has an important message . The one that I received this morning I thot it's a good one to share ~
『 It was a busy morning, about 8:30 ， when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s， arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb.
He
said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his
vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour
before someone would be able to see him.
I saw him looking at his watch, and decided ，since I was not busy with another patient，I would evaluate his wound . On exam ， it was well healed ，so I talked to one of the doctors ， got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound .
While taking care of his wound ， I asked him if he had another appointment this morning ， as he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman told me no ，that
he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife
who's suffered from of Alzheimer’s disease . As we talked ，I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.
He replied that she no longer knew who he was， that she had not recognized him in five years now .
I was surprised ， and asked him ， ‘ And you still go every morning ， even though she doesn’t know who you are ? ’ He smiled as he patted my hand and said ， ‘ She doesn’t know me， but I still know who she's . ’
I had to hold back tears as he left and thought ，‘ That is the kind of love I want in my life . ’ True love is neither physical ， nor romantic . True love is an acceptance of all that is ， has been ， will be ， and will not be. 』