How to save a life



 juz attended a  memorial service of a frd this morning ......... 

Mrs. Chapman ,  my frd's mother brought me the shocking news last saturday  ~  she told me Greg , her son , committed suicide ! She was going thru his mobile phone contacting all of his frds and inviting them to his memorial service .

I've had a lot of  " experience " with death  ~  Yet I was still at a loss for words ......... I can't imagine the sadness his mother must have felt as she called everyone to let them know ........ Mrs.  Chapman told me Greg was dealing with  problems at work and at home .  She said she tried to keep an eye on him but guess it's too late ......
 
 I believe we're all fighting our own internal demons.

Suicide often  leaves many unanswered questions ~ why ? what could I have done ? I should have been a better frd / family ! I should have contacted him more often .......  and so on.
 
 It's sad to think that someone was at that point where he had to take his own life . Sad that he had lost hope and there was no one there that could save him ........
 Greg's suicide has really affected me  ~  more than I thot it did . I had a lot of dreams last nite ,  mostly about him . I kept playing back in my head our last meetings trying to analyze the events and pick up any clues into his state of mind ........  
When ppl die  ,  I always wonder if I'm actually living or am I just going thru the motions ~ getting up ,  going to work , coming home and sleeping .....  
Perhaps as Paulo Coelho said  ~  only the crazy ppl are truly living ~  the rest of us are just confined to boxes and are afraid to live ......  
Greg's mom is such a strong woman . At the memorial service she spoke not of the pain or the tragedy but of the happiness his son brought to her life . She told us she would always live thru our memories of him .  
Perhaps that’s the thing with life  ~  it's not about how much money you have  ,  what job title you have or about real estate ..... at the end is about who you loved and who loved you ......

 ppl said grief comes in waves and time will heal the sadness But I know the sadness will probably always be there but I'm now gonna focus on the special memories he and I shared .  He’ll never be gone as he’ll always be there in my heart . I’ll smile when I think of those moments coz I’m pretty sure he’s smiling up there over us .

Greg  ,   hope you are now in a better place and in peace ...... 

Amen